The Weight of the Matter

[tinhuviel]

I forgot to mention that I tend to rant...

First off, let me say that I'm what some would call a 'Fat Chick'. I prefer the appellation of 'Plump Tart' but that's just mincing words...I'm overweight and have been for my entire unlife, with brief moments of being almost slender.

That said, I am a bit touchy about issues regarding weight because it has been society's view of weight that has filed me neatly away in the Pariah File. I used to be sad and pitiful and shy about it...now I'm simply pissed.

But this isn't really about me. It's about a friend of mine whose casual boyfriend has expressed his displeasure at her supposedly gaining weight. Mind you, S is as slender as can be but, apparently this bozo she needs to dump is eyeing those hot Nazi Deathcamp chicks and actually finds them desirable. Either way, it looks like her relationship is in danger because she's just not thin enough.

There's something wrong here. In the 1930's and 1940's, the images of women in the Nazi Deathcamps were horrific, something to rail against the atrocities that humans can impose upon one another. Today, this Deathcamp chic is glorified in magazines worldwide, enforcing the perverse idea that this is what women should strive for and what men should seek in a mate.

Women like Calista Flockhart have the potential of stabbing their sex partners with their bones. Is that really what men want? Why is it today Marilyn Monroe would be considered fat? What in the Goddess' name is wrong with our society where 9 year old girls choose to starve themselves so that they can someday look like Britney Spears?

I'm no Marilyn Monroe. But S is no Mama Cass either. She is perfect for a woman her age ~ healthy and full of life. If all men, like this loser she's hooked up with, want is skin bag full of bones to occasionally hump, I suggest they go to their local butcher shop and see what arrangements can be made. STOP ENCOURAGING WOMEN TO BE MALNOURISHED AND UNHEALTHY IN ORDER TO SATISFY AN UNREALISTIC AND PERVERSE AESTHETIC

Once again I am on a diet ~ trying my best to lose weight. I do it because I want to be healthy. I know I have a serious health problem in not being able to lose weight and keep it off. Only now are doctors coming to the realisation that this isn't a choice on the parts of people who have this problem. It's about time. At any rate, I'm back on it, and hope to be successful. I don't think I'll ever be slender, but that's not my goal. I'm not out to please anyone but myself with whatever results I see.

This is what I wish to pass on to S ~ don't diet for anyone but yourself. If you do, you're doing nothing but feeding the sickness that has infected our society. You're beautiful just as you are. It's your 'friend' who is ugly....the simple fact that he would bring this up to you indicates that his ugliness goes far deeper than the skin ~ it permeates his soul. And, for something like that, only a personal revelation can change it.

As for anyone else who reads this: it doesn't matter if your thin or fat, short or tall, black or white, etc etc etc ~ you're fine just the way you incarnated! Consider only your health in all matters. If you're so fat that you can't move, you need to address the problem. If you're so thin that you no longer menstruate or your bones are brittle, you surely need to address the problem.

I'll leave you with the lyrics to 'Video' by India Arie. I think they're incredibly cool.


Sometimes I shave my legs and sometimes I don't
Sometimes I comb my hair and sometimes I won't
Depending on how the wind blows I might even paint my toes
It really just depends on whatever feels good in my soul
I'm not the average girl from your video
and I ain't built like a supermodel
But, I Learned to love myself unconditionally
Because I am a queen
I'm not the average girl from your video
My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I'm wearing I will always be India Arie

When I look in the mirror the only one there is me
Every freckle on my face is where it's supposed to be
And I know our creator didn't make no mistakes on me
My feet, my thighs, my lips, my eyes I'm lovin' what I see

I'm not the average girl from your video
and I ain't built like a supermodel
But, I Learned to love myself unconditionally
Because I am a queen
I'm not the average girl from your video
My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I'm wearing I will always be India Arie

Am I less of a lady If I don't wear panty hose?
My Mama says a lady ain't what she wears but what she knows
But, I've drawn a conclusion, it's all an illusion
confusions the name of the game
A misconception, a vast deception
Something's gotta change
Don't be offended this is all my opinion
ain't nothing that I'm sayin law
This is a true confession of a life learned lesson I was sent here to share wit ya'll
So get in where you fit in go on and shine
Free your mind, nows the time
Put your salt on the shelf
Go ahead and love yourself
Cuz everything's gonna be all right

I'm not the average girl from your video
and I ain't built like a supermodel
But, I Learned to love myself unconditionally
Because I am a queen
I'm not the average girl from your video
My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I'm wearing I will always be India Arie

Keep your fancy drinks and your expensive minks
I don't need that to have a good time
Keep your expensive car and your Caviar
All I need is my guitar
Keep your Krysta'al and your pistol
I'd rather have a pretty piece of Crystal
Don't need your silicone, I prefer my own
What God gave me is just fine

I'm not the average girl from your video
and I ain't built like a supermodel
But, I Learned to love myself unconditionally
Because I am a queen
I'm not the average girl from your video
My worth is not determined by the price of my clothes
No matter what I'm wearing I will always be India Ari

Comments

[sri3m.livejournal.com]

YEAH!! Tell it like it IS Sistah!!!!